In 4th grade my daughter watched a fellow classmate endure constant bullying--and it traumatized her. She didn't want to tell anyone because she worried the group of girls would turn against her too. When I stepped in to help, the school handled the problem in the worst way possible. The teacher never responded to me, but asked the principal to call both my daughter and the victim into her office. My daughter had no idea why she was in the principal's office. And the victim, a boy, had to tell the principal what had happened in front of my daughter. Talk about humiliating!
Despite efforts to end bullying, it's still a huge problem for so many kids. That's why I'm pleased there's a new anthology addressing this issue: Dear Bully.
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THOUGHTS ON DEAR BULLY
WHY THEY DID IT
Megan Kelley Hall and Carrie Jones formed the group YAAAB (Young Adult Authors
Against Bullying) in April 2010 when they both coincidentally blogged about the
Phoebe Prince case on the same day. Megan reached out to Carrie expressing her
frustration with this case and the fact that bullying that seemed to be growing
at a ridiculously fast rate. As a Massachusetts resident and having already
spoken about bullying in schools, Megan was horrified after hearing about the bullying
that took place in the Phoebe Prince case. While writing her books, SISTERS OF
MISERY and THE LOST SISTER, she had to dig deep to make “mean girls as evil as
she possibly could. When she heard about all the bullying and bullycide stories
in the news, she felt like the bullies had jumped off the pages of her book and
into real life. She was also disheartened by the numerous times she’d done book
signings and would say to readers, “I hope you never meet girls as mean as the
ones in my book.” Shockingly, they almost always said, “We already have.”
Carrie Jones was also moved to do something, as she was the target of bullying
as a young child due to a speech impediment. Together, they felt that they owed
it to teen readers to discourage bullying -- to make it "uncool." Megan
Kelley Hall started by creating a Facebook page that kicked off an entire
"movement" to end bullying. This was the day that Megan, Carrie
and other authors decided to use their platform as Young Adult authors to
actually facilitate change and to be a voice for those kids who cannot speak
out or are too afraid to be heard.
HOW IT HAPPENED
Right away, a large number of authors jumped on board of
this cause -- wanting to be involved in any way possible. The Facebook group
jumped from 5 to 1500 members in one weekend and is now closing in on nearly
5,000 members. Carrie and Megan were thrilled when HarperTeen offered to put
all of the stories into an anthology. The thought of having 70 authors –
well-known, highly successful writers – sharing their personal bullying stories
with their fans was something beyond what they had ever hoped for.
The stories in DEAR BULLY come from all angles: from the
point of view of the victim, the mother, the friend, the sibling, the classmate
– even a few from the actual bully. Some of the stories are light-hearted,
while others are raw and emotional. All of them drive home the point that
bullying is something that almost everyone has experienced. And while that is a
sad fact, they want to prove that it's not a rite of passage. It doesn't make
you stronger, wiser, or better. But it is something that can be overcome,
something that can be changed, something that is relatable, and something that
one should never be ashamed of. Through these stories, the authors want to show
that they understand what teens are going through today. It is important to
encourage bystanders to speak up and make bullying unacceptable. Parents and
adults must get involved. Bullying is something that people no longer have to
endure--at least, not by themselves.
Though quite a lofty mission, the goal of DEAR BULLY is to
help just one person get through a difficult time, and hopefully make bullying
a thing of the past.
Don't forget to join the Facebook page at www.facebook.com/dearbully, visit the website
at www.dearbully.com, or follow DEAR BULLY on Twitter at www.twitter.com/dearbully.
IN THE NEWS:
“FIGHT BACK WITH WORDS. Better Homes & Gardens
recommends DEAR BULLY: Remind youngsters heading back to school that getting
picked on is tough—but that words can also heal as much as they can hurt, as
one anthology proves.” – Better Homes & Gardens
“This anthology of personal essays provides empathetic and
heartfelt stories from each corner of the schoolyard: the bullied, the
bystander and the bully himself are all represented. Their words will be a
welcome palliative or a wise pre-emptive defense against the trials of adolescent
social dynamics.” --New York Times
“Two of them, both authors of novels for young adults (Megan
Kelley Hall and Carrie Jones), have drawn on the power of the written word to
focus attention on the problem and offer solace to the bullied.” – --The Boston Globe
“You’ll love it if… You know someone (or are someone)
who’s ever been involved in any type of bullying incident. There’s something in
it for everyone, on all sides of the spectrum. You’ll love it even more if you
can find a story that inspires you to help someone else.” – Seventeen.com
“With authority often turning a blind eye and cyber-bullying
rampant, this timely collection is an excellent resource, especially for group
discussion, and the appended, annotated list of websites and further reading
extends its usefulness.” – Booklist
“Powerful…All of these stories feel authentic and honest,
and readers will find a story or a person to identify with, to look to for
comfort or guidance.” School Library
Journal
“Bottom line is this anthology is a terrific tool for the
counselor who can customize the entries to the needs of the victimized student.”
-- Harriet Klausner
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Giveaway ends on Tuesday, September 20, 2011